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Donita Sue Fry

Lesson 1 – The Orphan

The Orphan feels alone and begins a journey.

Goal: Learn about the messages of domestic violence.

Activity: Donita Fry shares some of her history and some beliefs she had when living in domestic violence. Follow the directions provided to learn about the messages of domestic violence.

Read the statements below out loud. If possible, read them to a therapist or good friend.  You can also stand in front of a mirror and ready them out loud to yourself.

  1. 1. “I was told that I was no good.”
  2. 2. “I had no value.”
  3. 3. “I didn’t have a voice.”
  4. 4. “I didn’t know how to manage money.”
  5. 5. “You are not deserving.”
  6. 6. “You don’t have a right.”
  7. 7. “You shouldn’t open your mouth.”

Review the following rating scale.

0- I have never heard this / I don’t agree with this / I don’t think this is true at all.

1- I had been told this on occasion / I agree that this is possible / I think that it is sometimes true.

2- I grew up with this / I agree somewhat / I think it is partially true at all.

3- I was told this / I agree with it / I think it is true most of the time.

4- I was told this all the time / I agree a lot with this / It is true all of the time.

Now, read them again and rate your beliefs about the statements.

  1. 1. “I was told that I was no good.”
  2. 2. “I had no value.”
  3. 3. “I didn’t have a voice.”
  4. 4. “I didn’t know how to manage money.”
  5. 5. “You are not deserving.”
  6. 6. “You don’t have a right.”
  7. 7. “You shouldn’t open your mouth.”

Total Score

If your score = 1 or greater, continue on with the Lesson#2 to see if any of the situations identified by Donita Fry are true for you. If these statements have helped you ask “Why?” then continue the journey.  Listen to the story of Donita Fry again.  Find a friend to talk to.  Find a therapist who understands.  It is good to see hope as we witness the power of others whom have taken the first steps of the healing journey.

The Orphan feels alone and begins the journey with a question, “Why?”